I’ve been debating whether or not I wanted to share this with the public at large, but as time passes and I continue to stick to my guns I figured I’d share. What finally made me want to share this was a conversation I had with a friend of mine as well as the reactions I got from males once they heard about it, so here goes nothing. First of all it’s very unfortunate that people assume that because I know some pro athletes and celebrities that I’m “Getting It In”, when that could be further from the truth, when in all actuality I haven’t had sex in 8months! Now once an individual comes across this information the first thing they do (men and women) is give me a screw face and react in one of the following ways:
“Why”
“I know you got a B.O.B (Battery Operated Boyfriend)….I dnt actually have one”
“Why would you want to do that”……and so on
So on to my conversation, during the conversation my friend was surprised that I still hadn’t “gotten any”. I then informed him that I felt like if I had waited this long then why just give it up to just anybody now, never have been like that. He then went on to say that he hated how women don’t want to be valued based on their vagina yet we pretend like our “pussy is gold” to which I explained the following.
I don’t by any means believe that my reproductive organs define who I am from my breasts, to my behind, my thighs and even my vagina, none of these things define who I am. Since I have them and I realize my worth includes far more than the physical, I decide to be selective with whom I let into my body. Sex makes situations that should be cut and dry more complicated than what they need to be. I see people around me in situations that without sex would not be a big deal and they are my motivation. When you think out of lust and in the moment you make decisions that have you questioning yourself at the end of the day. I’ve had some VERY close calls, I had to analyze each situation and came to the conclusion that it was not a healthy choice, and after I looked back I knew I had done the right thing. Sex is an intimate experience to share with someone you at least like, why not try to get to know as much information about someone as possible before you sleep together? Rushing into sexual relationships can seriously harm the foundation of any relationship that may have been able to grow had you not slept together. When the only thing you look forward to is sex with someone that makes you disposable, what is there to offer other than sex? Any woman can sleep with a man. I just figure that when I do decide to let someone in, to do the best I can to get to know the person first, does this mean we have to be boyfriend and girlfriend? No…but I at least at the end of the day want to foster a relationship that has the potential to be great and long term. Sex too soon blurs your vision…..especially if its good lol! I want someone who appreciates the fact that I value my body mind and soul and that I’m not having sex just to do it, but that I’m fostering a relationship that is already built…IDK maybe it’s just me. Bottom line is there are alot of options and alot of men are “READY” to pound something out lol! Not to say some women aren’t but that’s not the focus of this post! LOL
I’m selective because I can be….
And trust me it’s guys out here willing to spend money to get it….keep ur bread pimpin!
Tailormade
June 30, 2010 at 6:34 am
Hmmmmmmmmm, I don’t disagree with anything you said, however, many guys can give you the impression that ALL guys just want to see what that middle is all about and it’s not true. There are men who feel exactly the same way, if not more aggressive about it than you are.
Between men and women, a woman is proclaimed to be more sacred than men sexually. Which is a TON of bull. A woman is how if she gives it up but a guy is the man when he does. BULL! Bottom line. If you have something to GIVE sexually and you respect yourself, you have a million and one reasons NOT to hand out the snax cuz it MIGHT feel good. Man or woman.
A man has just as much power as a woman has, if he fills himself with certain values. Because of how people have grown to be, a woman could lay down in the street butt nakey with her legs open and her eyes closed and a there will be a line of guys waiting for the guy in front of him to be done. But the same doesn’t work for men because we put no value in what we have. And it’s sickening because men seem to naturally be more proud than women, and we don’t even exhibit the power we have.
But just like any comic book, you have a responsibility when you actually HAVE some kind of power. SO, to make it worse, half the guys who KNOW they have some kind of power, probably use it to twist chix heads up. “I’m gonna give her the best dick of her life, and get ‘rich’, or something…” Whatever that means.
All I’m saying is stereotypes are for suckaz. And for any guy that chooses to devalue himself or what he may have to offer by slangin it all around, “Go suck yourself off or something…” At least that way the balance that God created won’t continuously be shifted.
Men need women and women need men, and there’s no way to get around it. So stop acting like you’ve got something worth “knighting” or something worth “pennies” and realize SHE wants what you want and you want what SHE wants. Probably at the same time.
hiphopucit
June 30, 2010 at 4:58 pm
Well written article, I’d love post this to my site/online mag for the masses, I’ll def credit you in. Good stuff! -@hiphopucit