Have you ever spoken to one of your parents and they start getting “REAL” with you? Well that’s what my mother did not too long after mother’s day. I was telling her about a man that was interested in me that I hadn’t seen him in 4 years. My frustration was with the fact that even though I had not seen this man in years I was allowing him to come visit me in Vegas and he had expressed how much he was ready to be in a relationship prior to this visit. Though I appreciated his honesty I felt that he was jumping the gun in a sense by constantly expressing his interest and how much he wanted a relationship, I was scared. This conversation with my mother led to a transition into her relationship with my father.
My parents have been married for 26 years and within those 2 plus decades a lot has transpired from both of them losing their jobs, raising two children, my mother being diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis and losing our house, my brother having a son. My mother asked me the following question she asked; “do you think that me and dad provided a good example of what a marriage should be?”I began to tell my mother about how I felt about my father who has struggled with holding a job off and on for several years and how their issues had affected me, and that even though when we were younger we saw a great marriage that when things got tough it was very frustrating for me to see how our lives changed and more importantly the challenges they had adjusting to our financial situation.
My Mother stopped me dead in my tracks mid sentence and said “let me tell you something”. She said the following : “Eventhough your father hasn’t had a steady job and I have been the only one working, I don’t want for anything. He cooks, cleans, irons, and all I have to do is go to work. When I was sick your father was there by my side, he didn’t leave me. He bathed me when I couldn’t bathe myself, made sure I got back and forth to the hospital, took care of you and your brother. You father cleaned your room even when you were in high school. He didn’t leave me and I would NEVER leave your father, I was here when he had the great jobs and I’m still here now. Of course we argue and don’t agree on everything and times get tough, but when I couldn’t take care of myself he was there.”
The sincerity and passion in her voice made me realized that she calls me to vent every now and again, but that at the end of the day my mom and dad love each other. Today so many people get married for the wrong reasons and their marriages and relationships are based on the wrong things. When your relationship does not have a strong foundation it can’t withstand storms or even small rain showers and with even the slightest sign of adversity the house crumbles around the weak foundation. When you have something real that is built on trust and understanding you will never leave the person you are with, but instead stand by them and help them thru because you know they would do the same for you. Just something to think about. Are you with someone that would go to hell and back with/for you without breaking a sweat? Or will they run at the first sign of rain that is the real question. My mother said she’s in for the long haul that’s what vows are for and when I get married I won’t have it any differently.
This video made me cry and also showed a bond that I rarely see in young people who are married or even in relationships this and the story above are “REAL LOVE” Trust me God is in the center of all strong relationships!!!…
WARNING: NAMES HAVE BEEN SUBSTITUTED EVENTS ARE BASED ON A TRUE STORY
Chopped N Skrewed – T-Pain ft. Ludaris
It’s my 4th night in Miami and I have no clue what to wear it’s about 9pm and I’m panicking. I grab my soror and we begin to walk towards American Apparel. I always wanted a pair of those skin tight, trash bag looking leggings! I squeeze into an extra small and it’s a match made in Miami heaven. I confidently walk back to my hotel eager to try on the outfit that I have created in my head. By the time I get out of the shower our crew of 5 has turned to 3 and one is sleep. I continue to get dressed as I periodically check on one of my girls to see if she’s going to come. All the while ripping through my duffel bag to find a top to go with those darn leggings. I finally decide on a Green low cut V-Neck shirt that plunges below appropriate. I think to myself “I’ll make the bra part of the ensemble”. And there you have it I feel confident correct and ready to hang out for my last night in Miami. Me and my girl leave the hotel as a twosome and jump in a cab. We pull up with confidence exuding from every pore as I walk to the door and ask the door bouncer…”Excuse me is there a guest list”….he answers me with a seductive look in his eye and says “not for you Miss”. As we pass the first barrier to a great night we walk through a restaurant to an EMPTY bar!!! No one was there, but what could I expect at 10:30pm in Miami….I get places early to avoid the hassle.
So after a couple minutes of looking around we make our way to the bar and I ask the bar tender, “excuse me sir, what’s the minimum to use a credit card”…”he answers $30″. So I stand there and think for a moment about the charge I’m about to put on my card…I mean after all I am in Miami on a budget and I know what will happen if I just use a little patience. So I go through my purse and come across the flier for the party…”Free Martini’s and Champagne till midnight”….It’s 10:45! So I confirm the special with the bar tender and we get it cracking. At about 11:30 we make our way to the restroom to sit down and let the club fill up (feet were hurting). So as time progresses and I drink some more of my champagne, we make our way back to the party. We run into some people from School and converse. I then walk to the VIP room which was open to everyone this night and run into a young man who wants to start convo. I trade laughs with him for a second as we make our way to the bar. We continue our conversation and realized our common friends and he buys my girl a drink too. He then invites me to his section where the hosts (Santana Moss and his brother and Edgerine James) are and I let him know that I will connect later.
At this point the reserved tables are still empty so me my girl and some college friends have a seat. After about ten minutes a waitress comes and asks us to move because someone has purchased the section. We oblige. At this point it is 12:30am…my feet are killing me and the vultures are out. All the women parading around like peacocks trying to catch that $100,000 nut LOL. I play it cool I’m used to being around men of this caliber…or men with money. I tell women all the time “it’s not your money”! So after standing up for a while and doing another walk around the club I go back to the table we were booted from. Now there are 2 semi attractive looking males there with an empty seat. So I ask “excuse me do you mind if I sit here, my feet hurt”…without hesitation they agree to let me rest my feet. One of the guys offers me a drink that consists of Patron and Pineapple juice and we begin to talk. As I sit and conversed with him I see women putting on shows for athletes desperate for a chance to touch a trophy and I laugh to myself as I sit comfortably with my new found friend. We continue to drink and talk and enjoy the music for the next couple hours…I actually got up a couple times and he made room for me to come back, we danced to a couple slow songs and at the time he was something to do while I looked at him and thought of someone I would rather be dancing with. As the night comes to a close we exchange numbers and he asks me to add his name into my phone as James One Nighter Miami…I smile and put it in my phone and begin to walk away. He grabs my arm and pulls me close to him and whispers in my ear “I want you to come with me”, In my most Ignorant voice ever I ask “Why would I do that”…This dude really thought that since I sat and drank with him that it entitled him to go home with me!!! So after my initial comment as I let him down softly lips barely touching his ear just as softly as he sent the offer I walked away. As he watched me walk away I could feel his eyes etching my silhouette into his memory. I go outside to meet my male friend and wait on valet to bring his car to around as the man whose been chopped and screwed whistles for a cab….he see’s me next to my 6’4” chocolate companion and yells a heart felt “FUCK YOU” with a middle finger to match as he jumps into his yellow cab. As I ride off into the night in the black range I think to myself damn I’ve done it again…
It’s crazy how now I understand what he meant by unconditional love, God’s love. He was preparing me for the day when I would be so fed up that the only thing that would stop me from blasting off and being spiteful and angry would be unconditional love. Love with out condition. Even though I really want to be on this blog and talk about how wrong he did me and how much money, time and work on his behalf that I can’t get back….I can’t get it back. Even though my heart was heavy with disappointment in the words of so many other people in my life and in his “when people show you who they are believe them”. No one can hide who they are all the time, eventually people either find it in their hearts to be sincerely good, good to you or once they’ve gotten all they can from you, they move on to the next. The reason I’m not angrily ranting or calling names is because I’ve been blessed to have someone come into my life that doesn’t really know who they are, but through them being in my life taught me alot about myself, and for that I thank him. I was headed down a road of confusion and I was brought back to God, I was in need of self discovery and I found some books that helped me ask some important questions about my life. I never knew I had the capacity to allow someone into my life like I did him and now I know I can. I refuse to believe that a man can’t appreciate me revising a business plan , giving him sound advice, flying to see him whenever I can, introducing him to my boss and closest friends, buy him things, cook, help find ways to grow his business, stand up for him when I know he’s wrong. It’s just that he has to be willing to do the same in return, I’m waiting on so many people to say I told you so and I’ll take that, but above all if you never learn then what’s the purpose? There is a lesson to be learned and I def can say I walked away a stronger person and I know I have the capacity to give all this and more to someone very deserving some day. I want all business owners to do better in general, if you have people grinding with you day after day behind the scenes and in front of the scenes make sure you appreciate them, those are the people that will get you to where you need to go those people come first.
In conclusion over the past week I’ve found out a lot of things that if I didn’t know how to handle the right way would have kept me down, complaining being ungrateful, but all day everyday all I’ve been able to do is smile. I have been around some great people and I know I have young women that look up to me and moping around about a guy is not the example I want to set. People always say God puts you through trials to prepare you for your blessings and as soon as I understood that God didn’t want him for me right now that’s when I was able to receive my blessings in abundance! I wish you nothing but the best and I’m praying for you, thanks for everything babes and I mean that from the bottom of my heart **kisses**! God Bless
In Closing will neva 4get ya!
I’ve been debating whether or not I wanted to share this with the public at large, but as time passes and I continue to stick to my guns I figured I’d share. What finally made me want to share this was a conversation I had with a friend of mine as well as the reactions I got from males once they heard about it, so here goes nothing. First of all it’s very unfortunate that people assume that because I know some pro athletes and celebrities that I’m “Getting It In”, when that could be further from the truth, when in all actuality I haven’t had sex in 8months! Now once an individual comes across this information the first thing they do (men and women) is give me a screw face and react in one of the following ways:
“Why”
“I know you got a B.O.B (Battery Operated Boyfriend)….I dnt actually have one”
“Why would you want to do that”……and so on
So on to my conversation, during the conversation my friend was surprised that I still hadn’t “gotten any”. I then informed him that I felt like if I had waited this long then why just give it up to just anybody now, never have been like that. He then went on to say that he hated how women don’t want to be valued based on their vagina yet we pretend like our “pussy is gold” to which I explained the following.
I don’t by any means believe that my reproductive organs define who I am from my breasts, to my behind, my thighs and even my vagina, none of these things define who I am. Since I have them and I realize my worth includes far more than the physical, I decide to be selective with whom I let into my body. Sex makes situations that should be cut and dry more complicated than what they need to be. I see people around me in situations that without sex would not be a big deal and they are my motivation. When you think out of lust and in the moment you make decisions that have you questioning yourself at the end of the day. I’ve had some VERY close calls, I had to analyze each situation and came to the conclusion that it was not a healthy choice, and after I looked back I knew I had done the right thing. Sex is an intimate experience to share with someone you at least like, why not try to get to know as much information about someone as possible before you sleep together? Rushing into sexual relationships can seriously harm the foundation of any relationship that may have been able to grow had you not slept together. When the only thing you look forward to is sex with someone that makes you disposable, what is there to offer other than sex? Any woman can sleep with a man. I just figure that when I do decide to let someone in, to do the best I can to get to know the person first, does this mean we have to be boyfriend and girlfriend? No…but I at least at the end of the day want to foster a relationship that has the potential to be great and long term. Sex too soon blurs your vision…..especially if its good lol! I want someone who appreciates the fact that I value my body mind and soul and that I’m not having sex just to do it, but that I’m fostering a relationship that is already built…IDK maybe it’s just me. Bottom line is there are alot of options and alot of men are “READY” to pound something out lol! Not to say some women aren’t but that’s not the focus of this post! LOL
I’m selective because I can be….
And trust me it’s guys out here willing to spend money to get it….keep ur bread pimpin!
So this video came out a while ago, but it never gets old for me, it’s definitely one of the best videos I’ve seen in a while considering the lack of creativity out these days. If there’s one thing we all are faced with in life it’s decisions. This track is one that can speak to all of us everyday. Lord knows I’ve been faced with decisions and sometimes we don’t make the correct ones, but at the end of the day we must take accountability for each decision we make and look at the positive in everything….Enjoy!!!
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Just caught this video on youtube looks super dope. With everyone coming out with a clothing line, becoming a rapper, singer or actor, it’s refreshing to see people thinking outside of the box in an effort to bring you something new. I really only use Mac and Carmex LOL….but I’m definitely on board for Frank&Kenux(DOPE NAME) can’t wait!
Check out the following links for additional information!
FranksandKenux.com
FranksandKenux.blog
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So the very first music video I had the opportunity to work on was “Undisputed: Ludacris feat. Floyd Mayweather” and had the pleasure of meeting Diana Levine she has photographed Everyone from Hanson to 50 Cent and even Barack Obama thought I’d share a great talent with you all! Enjoy and check out her website
So yes a 4th installment of Resident Evil…I hated the last one and as you recall Ashanti and Mike Epps died as well as ummm…everyone except Alice! This one has Boris Kodjo and comes out September 10th, my birthday! So with that said I may give it a chance. Here’s the trailer!
Always B.Known 