Have you ever spoken to one of your parents and they start getting “REAL” with you?  Well that’s what my mother did not too long after mother’s day.  I was telling her about a man that was interested in me that I hadn’t seen him in 4 years.  My frustration was with the fact that even though I had not seen this man in years I was allowing him to come visit me in Vegas and he had expressed how much he was ready to be in a relationship prior to this visit.  Though I appreciated his honesty I felt that he was jumping the gun in a sense by constantly expressing his interest and how much he wanted a relationship, I was scared.  This conversation with my mother led to a transition into her relationship with my father.

My parents have been married for 26 years and within those 2 plus decades a lot has transpired from both of them losing their jobs, raising two children, my mother being diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis and losing our house, my brother having a son.  My mother asked me the following question she asked; “do you think that me and dad provided a good example of what a marriage should be?”I began to tell my mother about how I felt about my father who has struggled with holding a job off and on for several years and how their issues had affected me, and that even though when we were younger we saw a great marriage that when things got tough it was very frustrating for me to see how our lives changed and more importantly the challenges they had adjusting to our financial situation.

My Mother stopped me dead in my tracks mid sentence and said “let me tell you something”.  She said  the following : “Eventhough your father hasn’t had a steady job and I have been the only one working, I don’t want for anything.  He cooks, cleans, irons, and all I have to do is go to work.  When I was sick your father was there by my side, he didn’t leave me.  He bathed me when I couldn’t bathe myself, made sure I got back and forth to the hospital, took care of you and your brother.  You father cleaned your room even when you were in high school.  He didn’t leave me and I would NEVER leave your father, I was here when he had the great jobs and I’m still here now.  Of course we argue and don’t agree on everything and times get tough, but when I couldn’t take care of myself he was there.”

The sincerity and passion in her voice made me realized that she calls me to vent every now and again, but that at the end of the day my mom and dad love each other.  Today so many people get married for the wrong reasons and their marriages and relationships are based on the wrong things.  When your relationship does not have a strong foundation it can’t withstand storms or even  small rain showers and with even the slightest sign of adversity the house crumbles around the weak foundation.  When you have something real that is built on trust and understanding you will never leave the person you are with, but instead stand by them and help them thru because you know they would do the same for you.  Just something to think about.  Are you with someone that would go to hell and back with/for you without breaking a sweat?  Or will they run at the first sign of rain that is the real question.  My mother said she’s in for the long haul that’s what vows are for and when I get married I won’t have it any differently.

This video made me cry and also showed a bond that I rarely see in young people who are married or even in relationships this and the story above are “REAL LOVE” Trust me God is in the center of all strong relationships!!!…


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