Another quality I NEED that I some how neglected to mention is the need for spiritual compatibility in a relationship, if we are not grounded in the LORD we have no foundation to build from!!!!
Thoughts…..
It’s crazy how now I understand what he meant by unconditional love, God’s love. He was preparing me for the day when I would be so fed up that the only thing that would stop me from blasting off and being spiteful and angry would be unconditional love. Love with out condition. Even though I really want to be on this blog and talk about how wrong he did me and how much money, time and work on his behalf that I can’t get back….I can’t get it back. Even though my heart was heavy with disappointment in the words of so many other people in my life and in his “when people show you who they are believe them”. No one can hide who they are all the time, eventually people either find it in their hearts to be sincerely good, good to you or once they’ve gotten all they can from you, they move on to the next. The reason I’m not angrily ranting or calling names is because I’ve been blessed to have someone come into my life that doesn’t really know who they are, but through them being in my life taught me alot about myself, and for that I thank him. I was headed down a road of confusion and I was brought back to God, I was in need of self discovery and I found some books that helped me ask some important questions about my life. I never knew I had the capacity to allow someone into my life like I did him and now I know I can. I refuse to believe that a man can’t appreciate me revising a business plan , giving him sound advice, flying to see him whenever I can, introducing him to my boss and closest friends, buy him things, cook, help find ways to grow his business, stand up for him when I know he’s wrong. It’s just that he has to be willing to do the same in return, I’m waiting on so many people to say I told you so and I’ll take that, but above all if you never learn then what’s the purpose? There is a lesson to be learned and I def can say I walked away a stronger person and I know I have the capacity to give all this and more to someone very deserving some day. I want all business owners to do better in general, if you have people grinding with you day after day behind the scenes and in front of the scenes make sure you appreciate them, those are the people that will get you to where you need to go those people come first.
In conclusion over the past week I’ve found out a lot of things that if I didn’t know how to handle the right way would have kept me down, complaining being ungrateful, but all day everyday all I’ve been able to do is smile. I have been around some great people and I know I have young women that look up to me and moping around about a guy is not the example I want to set. People always say God puts you through trials to prepare you for your blessings and as soon as I understood that God didn’t want him for me right now that’s when I was able to receive my blessings in abundance! I wish you nothing but the best and I’m praying for you, thanks for everything babes and I mean that from the bottom of my heart **kisses**! God Bless
In Closing will neva 4get ya!
Jump Rope feat. Tennille – The Cool Kids and Don Cannon
FWD to me from one of my Sorors thought I’d share!
What do you think?
Men and Marriage…. Don’t Fool Yourself, It’s Not That Complicated (from a man’s point of view…hmmmm!)
This makes for interesting conversation…
Last week we threw a bachelor party for one of our good friends and then on Saturday afternoon we stood beside him in our tuxes while he and his fianceé said their vows. As I stood up there looking across the crowd, I decided that our next topic on this page would definitely talk about marriage. I also realized that a lot of women may not want to hear the truth about men and marriage because the truth is so simple that they could not accept it without questioning their own relationship. But I am here to tell you – DON’T FOOL YOURSELF, IT’S NOT THAT COMPLICATED
The sad thing about it is that it took a woman to bring it to my attention. I had a close friend of mine
tell me that she was pursuing a stable man with a girlfriend. When I asked her did she feel wrong about
that she said ‘Man, a girlfriend isn’t anything – girlfriends come and go. If the nigga is established and he isn’t either married or engaged, then he is not that serious about her and he is fair game.’ I thought
about this for a minute and came to a cold conclusion:
IF A MAN IS STABLE IN LIFE AND HE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP AND NOT MARRIED, THEN IT IS BECAUSE HE IS NOT SURE ABOUT THE WOMAN THAT HE IS WITH.
He is not willing to commit to her and constantly has his eye open for something better or is waiting for her to become something better. Point blank! When he finds a woman that he is satisfied with, he will make her his wife. And ladies, sorry to tell some of you, but it doesn’t take 4 or 5 years for that man to figure it out. It doesn’t take 2 or 3 years either.The only reason that a man will get married after that
long of a time is because he’s tired of looking for something better. And trust me, that’s definitely what
he was doing all of those years. So if you should happen to find yourself in one of those ‘long term’ relationships then maybe you should step back, take a look at yourself and wonder what it is that you’re missing that this man is not willing to fully commit. Don’t make excuses to yourself and your girlfriends saying things like ‘Oh he’s waiting til he gets a better job’ or ‘he’s waiting to finish school’ or ‘he’s waiting until he moves from his apartment to a house.’
DON’T FOOL YOURSELF, IT’S NOT THAT COMPLICATED
Which one of those things can’t be done with a wife or fianceé by his side?
So ladies, when you read this think about your situation and that man that you are living with. Or
the one that you spend many nights over his house or him over yours. Think about your baby’s father that you are still in a sexual relationship with. Think about your ‘ex’ that you are still in a sexual relationship with. Think about your ‘boyfriend.’ And definitely think twice before you brag on a relationship that’s a couple of years long and you still have no commitment.
Like I’ve said before, I’m a man and I know the situation. I’ve been there and I know that we can come
up with some extremely reasonable excuses, but…
DON’T FOOL YOURSELF, IT’S NOT THAT COMPLICATED.
Always B.Known 