I haven’t had any good old fashioned drama in years, but the past week has definitely been a doozy! From my crush being confirmed as a certified dickwad ( which I already kind of knew), to this little girl calling my phone this morning I’m somewhat in a state of shock.
My Morning began as such….
Before we get to today with this particular story let me give you all some back ground information.
I lived in another state for 12 weeks in the summer of 07′ and met a young man with who I never shared anything but a couple laughs and friendly conversation. Through all of his trials and tribulations I’ve always remained his friend, and eventhough we don’t speak too often we both make it a point to check up on one another every now and again. We have been trying or talking about trying to connect for the past 3 years and it just never happens and not too long ago I found out he had a girlfriend, no sweat because we are just friends, yet we have entertained the notion of being intimate. The last time we spoke he didn’t have a girl. So fast forward to the last 72hrs, he’s texting me asking how my weekend is, asking how I’m doing and so on and so on, which is normal. So being the comfortable person I am and going thru my 9 month hiatus I mention to him that I almost had a mishap this weekend because I was thinking with an illogical part of my anantomy if you know what I mean. His response was; “I can help you with that”, my response was ; ” Your full of shit”, he proceeds to tell me to hop a flight to where he lives….needless to say I progress the conversation in a totally different direction. So last night(7/27) I randomly text him and asked when he was coming to Vegas, because he said he’s been working and that’s why he hasn’t made it!!!!
NOW THE BULL….
I woke up this morning to 2 missed calls from one of his phones (we rarely talk on the phone), and a missed call from a 501 #. So I’m half sleep and look at the missed calls and go back to bed. Then I get the following message from him:
“DON’T TXT THAT 870 # AND IF A 479 NUM CALL OR TEXT U IGNORE IT”
Now being the chick I am I already have an idea of what’s going on, but I want him to tell me. He goes on to state that he believed his girl had someone else steal his phone, and it was some “nigga” ish going on and jealousy. I call the 501# back and a young lady answers the phone and states that she had the wrong #. So I just chalked it up and let it go because we DON’T kick it like that and as far as I’m concerned I had done nothing wrong, I didn’t even know he still had a girl. So I shake it off a little, eventhough being involved in something that had NOTHING to do with me rubbed me the wrong way, I had to keep a good attitude. I just looked at it like a young girl who had some misplaced anger.
I had pretty much let it go until I saw the 4th call from this 479#! So I text the # and it went a little something like this.
Me: Who is this?
Her: This is (insert mans name here)
Me: Last name?
Her: (insert name) u text my phone last night, this my other #
Me: Sweet heart lose my # I’ve been informed that his phone was stolen, u dnt have anything to worry about over this way, so PLEASE stop calling me from all these #’s
Her: Who’s phone has been stolen
Me: I know exactly what’s going on so you can stop calling me from all these #’s this ish is mad childish
Her: What’s childish is you texting someone who’s in a relationship and then acting like u dnt know whts going on, I’m not starting anything with you, but just need to know if (insert name) is who you meant to text
Me: LOL 1. I didn’t know he still had a girl and why would I. 2. If you read the text they go both ways. I haven’t even seen him in 3 years. You need to work on your self esteem and talk to ur man and stop playing on my phone and grow up. Who still plays on peoples phones and steals phones, that’s weak as hell. But I have already given you too much energy. I’ll pray for you and your situation. ~ Stay Blessed hope everything works out.
And to add insult to injury she CALLS my phone. I answered and she begins to say sorry then the phone hangs up, it calls me right back and it’s him. Now take in mind he has already given me the run down on the situation, I automatically go into defense mode and start to explain, ” I told that girl we’re just cool and I haven’t seen you in three years” , then I realize what type of situation I had been put in and that they were causing me to be inconveninced. So I told him to stop acting brand new and that I had NOTHING to do with anything that was going on and for both of them to lose my number cause I’m not the one. So basically he was trying to flex in front of his girl to pretend like he was trying to clean a situation up when there wasn’t one!
So let me say this: If you feel the need to go through your mans phone then maybe you need to re-evaluate your current situation. At the age of 25 considering I am single, celibate and for the most part stay to myself, I should not have to be a victim of another grown womans insecurity. My attitude is under control these days and I held back some things I wanted to say, but I’ve been in her situation….in highschool, I understood her frustration. Funny thing is I don’t know her name and wouldn’t know her if I saw her in the street. I don’t encourage anyone to entertain a situation to the extent I did, but I was compelled to have the last word! Unfortunately I can’t stand for things like this in my life so I lost a friend today! His first move should have been to call and apologize for him and her and we would have been good, but instead he chose to call me and play stupid in order to save face!
#DOBETTER!!!!
PSA: If you are about to go into someones phone have a game plan on how you’re going to react when you find what you are looking for. Never make your first move to call the person in the phone, if it’s like that confront the person you’re spying on or better yet don’t look for dirt because you will indeed find it. When you go looking for dirt prepare to get messy! or just GROW UP!!!! Geeze okay I’m done! LOL
Always B.Known 