Want a weekend filled with R&B Hip Hip and a mature audience? This is the ONLY place to be!!!
I wouldn’t be a good friend if I didn’t tell you about the festivities I think are worth going to this coming weekend along with a few pointers….so here we go!
May 25th
Ditch Friday Palms Pool and Bungalows
Afro Jack @ Tryst Inside The Wynn
Benny Benassi @ Marquee Inside The Cosmopolitan
Cassie @ Lavo inside the Palazzo
Megan Good @ Gallery inside Planet Hollywood
Holly Madison @ Chateau inside The Paris
Trey Songz @ Tao inside the Venetian
Saturday May 26th
Busta Rhymes @ The Palms Pool and Bungalows (Day Party)
Tao Beach @ The Venetian
Marquee Day Club @ The Cosmopolitan
Liquid Pool @ Aria Resort and Casino
Fabolous @ Haze Inside Aria
Ludacris @ Rain inside The Palms
DJ Karma @ The Bank
Sean Kingston @ Lava Inside the Palazzo
#FMA Saturdays Presented by The Movement @ Sedona on 215 and Flamingo
Sunday May 27th
REHAB!!! With Ne-Yo DJ Vice and DJ Eric D-Lux
Lil Jon @ Tryst inside the Wynn
Nelly @ 1OAK inside The Mirage
Redman @ LAX inside the Luxor
Akon @ Haze inside Aria
This is it for now…Stay tuned for tips and pointers!!!
I hate that I even have to post this blog, but over the past 8 months I felt it necessary to address. In the spring of 2005 I did a photo shoot with a company on the east coast. I had what I thought was enough knowledge to make the decision to go do the photoshoot and start a modeling career. Unfortunately this 1.5 day photoshoot has haunted me ever since it happened, subsequently I believe they sold pics from my photo shoot to these websites. So seven years later here I am. It has been brought to my attention that one particular photo has been making its rounds on porn sites as a pop up that states, “Meet hot girls in your area that want to get laid”, along with this pop up is the below photo of me that was taken 7 YEARS ago, it is also in an ad on facebook. Anyone who knows me knows that I live in Las Vegas and make an honest living doing events/concierge and working at a hotel. I am in no way nor have I ever been involved in such activities. I did have a lawyer I was working with whom I had assisted while he was in Vegas who volunteered to assist me with getting a cease and desist, but that is still pending. I did sign a release, but I no longer have it and the lawyer is supposed to be requesting a signed copy. As you can imagine this has been difficult to deal emotionally, and I don’t feel like I should have to defend myself, but I did want to relay the facts. If you see this and click on it I have no idea what’s going to happen but one thing I am 100% certain of is that you won’t meet me lol! Thank you for your understanding and support during this time! I’ve had about 20 different people tell me about this ad so I had to say something.
B.Known!!!
A little over a year ago I posted a blog about my mom and dad who at this point have been married for 27 years. I spoke about the struggles that they have been thru and had been going thru at the time. If you need a recap feel free to follow the previous post. I’ll start at the end, I left off my first post on this with the following: Are you with someone that would go to hell and back with/for you without breaking a sweat? Or will they run at the first sign of rain that is the real question. My mother said she’s in for the long haul that’s what vows are for and when I get married I won’t have it any differently. If you are married or thinking about marriage try and see the big picture and make sure God is in it!
Though my parents have been thru financial hardships, health issues, raising kids, a grand child, losing their home, they never left each others sides. They toughed it out and weathered the storm and in one year God and having faith, love and a solid foundation has brought them through.
Not too long after my post my dad told me about a new casino opening, I told him about some positions he should look for and he was hired, he’s now been promoted once with a second promotion on the way. I told you we lost our home, that our whole family had a part in having built only to lose it to short sale. Three months ago may parents moved into a beautiful 3 bedroom house in a beautiful neighborhood, and they are home owners again. Where do you think they would be had someone given up? On the darkest day they had faith and saw the bigger picture. So many people lack the ability to see the bigger picture. I told you about the trials it wouldn’t be right to leave out the triumph.
I’ll just let you all read and tell me what you think…
Is He Worth Upgrading?
As posted on http://www.necolebitchie.com
Remember when Nightline did that awful “Face-Off” about the plight of the single Black woman back in 2009 featuring Hill Harper, Jacque Reid, Sherri Shepherd, Steve Harvey and the other guy whom I refuse to name? In one segment, Hill Harper told an anecdote about an established female attorney realizing the potential in a male suitor. Although she was higher up on the chain of command, this young man didn’t let her position, or his for that matter, prevent him from pursuing her. After turning him down a number of times she eventually gave in to one date. The rest is history. Literally. Harper’s narrative was the story of Michelle Robinson and Barack Obama. His point in telling the story was to suggest women date potential as Michelle once saw the potential in Barack.
Sherri Shepherd immediately retorted by proving Harper’s logic was flawed. Yes, Michelle took a chance on Barack who was fresh out of law school while she was already an associate at the firm, but he had a law degree from Harvard. She wasn’t dating the type of potential who was riding the bus and working at Burger King. I was so happy Shepherd corrected Harper on his “dating potential” analogy.
But dating potential isn’t uncommon for women. It isn’t unusual for a woman to date a man who isn’t up-to-par of her standards. Women will sometimes invest time and money to fix him up. Beyonce sang about upgrading men with her hit record “Upgrade U.” Bey sings:
Partner let me upgrade you
Audemars Piguet you
Switch your neck ties to purple labels
Upgrade you
Introduce you to some new things &
Upgrade you
I can (up),
Can I (up), let me
Upgrade you
The problem with upgrading a man is you rarely see a return on your investment. And what happens when the two of you break up? All the women he dates from henceforth will reap the rewards of the new man you helped create. Nothing about upgrading a man seems appealing.
However, is it a double standard when it comes to men taking women from rags to riches?
When Kanye West met former stripper, Amber Rose, he saw something he apparently liked. She literally went from the pole to music videos to front row seats in Paris for Fashion Week. Kanye loved Amber Rose, which is evident by the lyrics of “My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy.” Ultimately, Kanye changed her life forever by dating her and exposing her to his world- the world of fame, power and fortune. And now that the couple has split Kanye is arguably kicking himself for creating a star that is now publicly dating another rapper.
Men dating women who aren’t in the same tax bracket, who aren’t as educated or come from a lower class, is nothing new. It is no big deal when men do it. But a woman upgrading a man is frowned upon. Something to ponder.
Dating more than anything is about compatibility. If your man is not compatible on basic levels: values, class, intelligence or common interests, the relationship won’t last. When you are dating someone you are compatible with there shouldn’t be a need to essentially change him through an upgrading process.
Clearly Beyonce is not upgrading anyone as she is married to the most powerful man in hip-hop. It is one thing to date potential similar to the potential Michelle Obama once saw in Barack Obama, as long as women remember he came to the table already a degreed intellect with morals and ambition. It is quite another to date “potential” if you are an Account Executive at a PR firm dating a weed head with three children working at the local grocery store who has no goals past surviving day to day.
Personally, I’m not in the business of playing fixer-upper. Spending money on a man to upgrade his status in life sounds like an unfulfilling job I’ll gladly pass on. For the ladies upgrading brothers, don’t be salty when the relationship goes sour. Nobody told you to turn Steve Urkel into Stefan.
Written By @WrittenByBene
Always B.Known 