We were at the Trey Songz concert, tickets compliments of him and there were these two girls sitting next to me.  I never asked their names but I noticed that they were both very pretty and were probably guests of the artists as well.  After the concert we all went back to the green room and hung out kicked it told jokes and talked about other crazy times we all had in Vegas and I saw the girls again, but they were quiet and kind of off to the side.  A month later I was out at an event hosted by Ludacris and while I was in his section the same young lady came up to me again…..this time she spoke.  I wrote her off as a groupie and honestly it took my a good day or two to actually remember where I knew her from.  This past weekend I was out once again with a friend of mine who books artist to host events in Vegas and I saw her with what I assumed to be some athletes from all the way across the club.  I immediately tweeted about seeing her and again categorized her as a groupie.  As the night went on some how she made her way to our section where it was just me and my friend that had booked the artist for the night.  Did she know him?  No?  But she had seen him and knew that he’s always around a bunch of celebrities and he was attractive and she likes older men blah blah blah.  So because she had ran across me on this being the third occasion I guess she felt that was an opportunity to get the info on who I was.  When she asked me what I did I knew what she really wanted to know was, how do you know all of these people.  So I told her my story…the short version, I mentioned that I had graduated college and that I worked for a celeb and was able to maintain relationships with people and never compromised myself in the process and told her my current job.  So then I asked her what she did…..This young lady proceeded to tell me that she was 22 years old with no job, so obviously I was a bit baffled at this, so I asked how she survived.  She told me that she had 3 different ball players  that had her on an allowance and a lot of guys invite her out, but she doesn’t sleep with all of them.  I went from judging her to feeling bad for her, and when i asked her why, she said it was because she was young and wanted to get it out of her system early in life.  My heart broke and I had to adjust my message.  I’ve seen women like her come and go and leave situations where they are being tricked on…with nothing.  When the man is done with you, there goes your income, as much as I wanted to give a “momma” talk, I don’t have any kids, nor have I ever gotten allowances for sexual favors from men that occasionally see me when they are on vacation.  The whole thing just seems draining and unfulfilling in the long run.  I couldn’t knock her hustle, but I did let her know that if a man doesn’t want to be cool with me because I’m not fucking or sucking him he can keep it pushing.  I’ve personally been offered an allowance to be a hush girl and be on the clock, and I gracefully declined that offer.  What I did tell her is that just because someone wants it, you don’t have to give it, but at the end of the day if you do choose to continue what you are doing to please know the following:  Know who you’re dealing with; save your money just in case they change their mind, and find out what you like to do and make one of them fund your dream/aspirations.  I never thought I’d tell a woman to continue to do these things, but everyone isn’t me.  Have I messed with an athlete before…yes.  The lesson I learned in my early 20’s was that, you are an extension of a temporary situation especially if you know he has other women, that’s not a situation I wanted to be a part of, we remained cool but I ain’t smashin him and he ain’t payin my bills which is fine with me.  I’ll call this girl April, I know I will see April almost every time I go out, and I will continue to say hello and be cordial.  April is a girl I and many other women I know could have/have easily become if I didn’t go to college and if I didn’t have my parents to support me and if I sought other peoples validation and sought to be accepted in certain circles.  Vegas is a hard place I’m sure for a woman with no college education pretty, nice body and hair and good personality and you are 22 it can be hard to turn down what seems like a no brainer.  Professional athletes and celebrities that are attractive and give you an allowance to please them EVERYONCE and a while….why not.  I’ve seen a very ugly side to that first hand (not personally) and want no parts.  At the end of the day if anything all of this did say something to how I carry myself that she asked…”What do you do and not Who are you fucking”.  People are always watching you!  April if you see this please know I mean no harm but I had to share this so someone who might NEED to see this would see. 

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